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Pre-wedding blues....




I am starting to get the heebie-jeebies now! The wedding is just four months away and then...my whole life is going to change and how! Bah. Okay I am just being a drama queen here but hey I am getting married and thats my excuse. Lol. 

'So how does it feel?' This is the new question thrown at me these days. To this I say, "I am okay." I guess that pisses them off! An 'okay' is not something they would expect from a blushing bride to be. And hey I am not even blushing yet. 

They further probe and ask c'on you can tell us? Pre-wedding jitters? Excitement? Something? I just shrug it off. Because I really don't have anything to say. What I actually want to say is 'yes, I am excited but why should I tell you?' So I just smile at their disappointed faces and move on. 

Sorry. I don't have the pre-wedding blues as yet. I am still figuring out the clothes and all that jazz, so where is the room for panic? Okay maybe I am just putting up the brave front but frankly I have no tears yet. I know my mum's  gonna cry truckloads and dad is going to be heartbroken but I am not... not yet at least! Its all whimsical still...the wedding, honeymoon [I have no clue where we are going yet!] and life after that. 

But recently I was discussing our room-to-be [the decoration aspect] with my fiancé. He and I discussed various colors I want [lol] and what the whole outcome would be. And then I happened to ask him whether he was ready? 

"Ready for what?" he asked. "To share your room with me. You know it is going to have my things as well in a short period of time. It will become more girly too," I said. To this he said, "Of course I know that bit and I am ready." 

"Did it ever occur to you, even for a second, that you will have to now share everything that belongs to you with me?"

"Yeah. I know that. But frankly nothing of that sort has occurred to me yet and it won't!" 

I guess I am a lucky girl because if I had to share my room here I would be apprehensive for a while. I mean, don't get me wrong, I love him, but I can be possessive about my stuff. 

For his homeopathy treatment he visits a certain Dr. K and she has been treating him for a few years now. So she knows about me and the up coming wedding. She happened to ask him the same question and yeah, he said the same as above. Dr. K was happy for him and went on to say that many people do panic before they can tie the knot. 

Her own brother in law, who is set to get married in November this year, called her up in office one day. He sounded restless and frantic. He asked her to come home right away else he would drop by the clinic. She of course panicked and headed home. The otherwise peaceful household was abuzz with activity. Nobody could understand what had happened to the groom-to-be. And he insisted he would only talk to Dr. K. 

So after much coaxing he accepted that he had panicked big time. Suddenly he thought he was losing it all. How could he share his room that had been 'his' for so long with an unknown girl?  It is an arranged marriage for them. Sweating profusely he explained that he could not come to terms with sharing the bed with her or even letting her share his cupboard. 

While many of us would have laughed this off, at that very precise moment this was a dangerous situation. Panic can lead to drastic decisions and he could have called off the wedding with no fault of the girl at all. But they managed to calm him down. It did take a while - a week or so. But he is okay now. And is very embarrassed with the whole drama that he put up! 

Another close friend of his had called him up late one night. She was getting married to her boyfriend of four years the very next day. The phone call was a lot about crying - the girl on the other side and a bewildered Him on the other side. She had panicked so much that she did not want the wedding. Suddenly it had dawned on her that a day later she would call her husband's home her home and his parents would be her mom and dad. Damn! It was just too much for her and hence, she let loose the dam. Poor kid! 

I say, so much nautanki! What will I do? God only knows...I only pray and hope that its just a fleeting thing and passes by quickly. You see I don't want puffy eyes on the morn of my D-day! :D

Comments

  1. I know there are some people who panic and throw fits but believe me, every thing gradually settles down. Some pre-wedding jitters are very natural anyway.
    Actually, when you realize much later, that you will be bringing a baby home very soon and nothing in life will be the same again, that's when the real panic sets in! Chill and have a great time shopping. These days won't come back!

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  2. This is a beautiful phase, enjoy it.

    I haven't read your previous posts, but all I can tell you is a husband-wife relationship is the most complete relationship. In him you will find a friend, a guardian, a Professor Higgins, a lover...

    And never, ever take your loved ones for granted.

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  3. @Wildflower

    Thank you!

    @ Aparna

    I am totally enjoying the shopping bit :)Thanks!

    @Himanshu

    Waiting for Oct 1st!

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  4. @ Purba

    Thanks for dropping by! I totally loved your post on your lil bundle of Joy! :) And yes...I agree with your comment.

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  5. its an interesting period mate... the nerves would be there always but do remember to enjoy those moments...

    nothing drowns those nerves like the good smiles & laughter :)

    hearty wishes...

    have a good day... cheers

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  6. ya as they all said here...interesting period in yr life buddy..enjoy the fulll..and u have friends like us who wish all the best all the time..:)

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  7. Wish you a very happy married life, Nikita. Wonder how it'll be with me when I'll tie the knot. However, I do think it is different when you're having a love marriage. It is more of anticipation. Am I right ?

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  8. this post actually reminds me of a quote from none other than calvin my favorite ;)

    " I know the purpose of my life. I know why people exist. The exist so that they can do what i want" ;) do i need to say who is calvin here ;)

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  9. I too am planning to tie the dreaded knot sometime in coming years but even the thought scares me

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  10. It's a huge change in every bride's and groom's life - and it should be. Everyone feels the excitement/perhaps panic/perhaps strangeness of your life altering. I remember feeling quite sad that I would no longer be Julia Phillips. Yet I was the one who embraced changing my name to match my husband's. Go figure!

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